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Does getting to know you better make people love you less?
It’s a question I’ve been thinking about- Is love reduced when people learn more about who you are?
At first, it may sound almost absurd. Are not relationships whether with friends, family, or partners built on really knowing someone? However the more I thought about it, the more I started to wonder if there is a breaking point, a point where being known so deeply stops feeling safe and starts feeling like a risk.
Here is what I mean.
We all have versions of ourselves that we show to the world the confident, capable, smiling versions. Then there is the other side: the insecurities, the regrets, the parts of us that we wish we could rewrite. For the longest time, I have believed that sharing those parts and letting people in, was how real connections were formed. But recently, I started questioning that belief.
Have you ever shared something deeply personal with someone and felt their reaction shift, even just a little? Perhaps they became quieter, or their expression changed, and you immediately started wondering if you had said too much. That is what I am talking about. It is like opening a door and worrying if they are going to walk through or quietly back away.
The thing is, I do not think anyone truly knows everything about me not even I…